The husband and wife are obliged to live together, observe mutual respect and fidelity, and render mutual help and support. 31 FOR THIS CAUSE A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER, AND SHALL CLEAVE TO HIS WIFE; AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH. Paul likewise warns husbands of bitterness (Colossians 3:19). Paul, like Peter, points out a very practical connection between the sexual relationship of a husband and wife to their prayer life, which we will consider later in the lesson. It is meant to serve as a remedy to concupiscence (v. 2). 29 But this I say, brethren, the time has been shortened, so that from now on those who have wives should be as though they had none; 30 and those who weep, as though they did not weep; and those who rejoice, as though they did not rejoice; and those who buy, as though they did not possess; 31 and those who use the world, as though they did not make full use of it; for the form of this world is passing away (1 Corinthians 7:29-31). The husband does have authority over his wife’s body, but so also the wife has authority over his body. The words “in the same way” (3:1) and “likewise” (3:7) are unfortunately different translations of precisely the same term in the original text. A husband should always trust his wife. (5) Elsewhere, the goal of submission is the salvation of the one to whom submission is required. A Christian husband will be always learning about his wife (1 Pet. This will stop anything from coming in the way of your prayers (The Jerusalem Bible). 3. 103 Luke 1:77; 11:52; Romans 2;20; 11:33; 15:14; 1 Corinthians 1:5; 8:1, 10, 11; 12:8; 13:2, 8; 14:6; 2 Corinthians 2:14; 4:6; 6:6; 8:7; 10:5; 11:6; Ephesians 3:19; Philippians 3:8; Colossians 2:3; 1 Timothy 6:20; 1 Peter 3:7; 2 Peter 1:5, 6; 3:18. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. For example, William Barclay cites Bigg: “As Bigg puts it: ‘The sighs of the injured wife come between the husband’s prayers and God’s hearing.’” William Barclay, The Letters of James and Peter (Philadelphia: The Westminster Press, [rev. They indicate that just as the example of our Lord is the pattern for slaves and Christian wives, it is also the pattern for Christian husbands. 9 “And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” 10 The disciples *said to Him, “If the relationship of the man with his wife is like this, it is better not to marry.” 11 But He said to them, “Not all men [can] accept this statement, but [only] those to whom it has been given. Give attention to his opinion and be polite to her. 12 “For there are eunuchs who were born that way from their mother’s womb; and there are eunuchs who were made eunuchs by men; and there are [also] eunuchs who made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. (2) In the command to “dwell with them according to knowledge,” is the emphasis on “living with” or on “according to knowledge,” or both? Submission is evidenced when we consider the interests of another more important than self-interest (see Philippians 2:3-8). In regards to the issue of a husband who refuses to answer the call of his wife to bed, it appears [to me] that it is impermissible if he is capable and the wife needs to fulfill her sexual need. Anyway, I just find it interesting the way this ended up going. Rather than demanding honor from his wife, he should grant honor to her. The obligation of a husband to fulfil the sexual needs of his wife. Our weaknesses are more evident to those close to us than they are to us. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself [being] the Savior of the body. (5) What parallel texts, if any, do we have to help us here? If the wife wishes, she may declare that she wishes to keep her wages, and she is ready to be self-sufficient. In a Hadith, the Great Messenger of Allah ﷺ is quoted as saying “Whenever a man calls his wife to bed and she refuses to come, the Angels cursed her until morning”. which, I think everyone agrees, are none. 8 And being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross (Philippians 2:4-8). For a woman to submit to her husband, to be silent and have a gentle and quiet spirit (as taught in 3:1-6) is to be weak in the eyes of the world. It does fall into the same word group. Then your prayers will not be hindered (The New English Bible). Fourth, I define the term “to live together with” as it is employed in the Greek translation of the Old Testament (the Septuagint). We know this verse is a part of a larger passage in which Peter is dealing with the subject of submission, which introduced in chapter 2: 13 Submit yourselves for the Lord’s sake to every human institution, whether to a king as the one in authority, 14 or to governors as sent by him for the punishment of evildoers and the praise of those who do right. How can a man and a woman who both believe in Jesus Christ fail to fulfill their calling as a married couple? This is not so with Peter, except for wives and their husbands. Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers (NIV). The goal of Christ’s suffering was our salvation (1 Peter 2:21-25). This expression is very important. is he obligated to do it in return for her, as she is doing everything he asks of her? The stronger brother honors the weaker brother by refraining from practicing his liberty so that the weaker brother is not made to stumble in his faith. The close connection with the description of the wife as the weaker partner favors the specific sense: the husband must dwell with his wife as one who knows her needs, who recognizes the delicacy of her nature and feelings. The wife seeks to glorify her husband, but submits to him. But it is very interesting that Paul does not speak of the sexual union between a husband and his wife only in terms of the wife’s submission to her husband, but rather in terms of the mutual submission of both the husband and the wife. We are to minister to the weaknesses of one another: 1 Now we who are strong ought to bear the weaknesses of those without strength and not [just] please ourselves. Instead, He became the servant and the Savior of men: 4 Do not [merely] look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others. Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with [them] according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered (King James Version). The roles which husbands and wives are to fulfill in this life will be left behind when we enter into the hope of heaven. That saving knowledge enables the husband to love his wife as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it.”107. The main obligation and duty of the wife as a partner in a marital relationship are to contribute to the blissfulness and success of the marriage as much as they can. In the same way, you husbands must conduct your married life with understanding: pay honour to the woman’s body, not only because it is weaker, but also because you share together in the grace of God which gives you life. The principles of Romans 14 apply as much to husbands and wives as they do to anyone else in the church. This is not to say the relationship between a husband and his wife is entirely governed by mutual submission, so that the headship of the husband over his wife is denied or nullified. But He is emphatic in this passage that marriage is to be entered into as a permanent commitment. Here, the outcome is an unhindered prayer life of the husband and wife. Consequently, they do not lead effectively, or they do not even try. It is not a one-sided submission, but a mutual submission. His wife while crying, said: 'My mother and sister-in-law do not like me and constantly disturb me. The question in their mind was not “if” divorce should occur, but only how petty the excuse would have to be to justify the divorce. He is obligated to provide for her sustenance for her benefit; in exchange, he is also entitled to her income. 24 But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives [ought to be] to their husbands in everything. But now that their mischievous deeds have not affected my husband, they have forged some love-letters and have placed them in my wardrobe in order to instigate him to divorce me'. While the men of Peter’s day could rather easily ease out of one marriage and into another, the same was not true for women. The Father is the One who promotes the glory of the Son (see Philippians 2:3-11). There was therefore no need for Peter to command wives as he does husbands. Its most common use is in reference to a man living with a woman as his wife (Genesis 20:3).100 Sometimes there is a more specific reference to sexual intercourse between a husband and his wife (Deuteronomy 22:13; 25:5b). We see this especially true in the area of spiritual gifts. Most significant is the way Peter uses this term “knowledge” in his second epistle: 4 Seeing that His divine power has granted to us everything pertaining to life and godliness, through the true knowledge of Him who called us by His own glory and excellence … 5 Now for this very reason also, applying all diligence, in your faith supply moral excellence, and in [your] moral excellence, knowledge; 6 and in [your] knowledge, self-control, and in [your] self-control, perseverance, and in [your] perseverance, godliness (2 Peter 1:3, 5-6).105. Fourth, Christian couples fail to view their marriage responsibilities in the light of eternity. 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